Thanks for your help. I'm just so confused about a friend/acquaintance of mine, actually a coach for a marathon team I am part of. He doesn't like me, he dates everyone else on my team and has been able to ask other women out and he never has asked me out. However, he has called me his future wife and wondered if we made a cute couple a week after he broke up with someone (I did my best to make him feel better). And then he asked me THREE times to cheer him on during a big race. I didn't and I'm glad because when I texted him congrats, he writes back, "Thanks. Who's this." Felt like a fool, but I still responded and got nothing back. He's always nervous around me too and he can never talk hold a conversation which just makes m nervous. In fact, when I asked him how his race was, he just replied, "Fine." But he was smiling at me when he did say so. And this was hours after I observed him animated replayig his race to some other people. I guess my thing is, how do I make him feel comfortable in my presence and how do I actually get him to have a converstion with me? Do I actually have to be blunt and ask him what gives with all his mixed messages? Thanks so much! His behaviour has been bothering me for a while.

Savio's Reply

Dear justfriends,
Basically he's a flirt and it's best to leave him in his own stupid world. It's no use wasting your time on a guy like him and find something better to do with your time and date new guys.

Gavin's Reply

Dear justfriends,
You said..(I did my best to make him feel better). you seem to be a loving person....now use your other skills. don't confront him yet...smile. when he is around......be happy... flirt healthily with him. (compliment him....flatter him in private) send him cute messages..... do that for a regular basis and then suddenly stop it and show indiffernce. after a few days he might show signs to get in touch with you if he is really interested. if you dont find any concrete signs forget about him and look for other greener pastures.