About a year ago I met a guy who turned my world upside down. He is a year and a bit older than me he lives two hours in the car from where I live and I've been in love with him for a long time. A month after seeing his girlfriend I met up with him (last october) I didn't know about her though. We ended kissing again just like when we first met and it was amazing. He then stopped speaking to me and I didn't hear from him again until earlier this year (june i think). This week I went to visit my sister who lives near him and used that as an opportunity to see him, we arranged to meet up on the tuesday of this week but then decided we would also meet up on mon night. I knew about his girlfriend and kept reminding myself of that and that I am also still a virgin. We ended up really drunk together after 6 pints of beer and I was so lust struck we ended up kissing and I persuaded him to take me back to his flat. After messing around for a while we were near to having sex when he stopped it all at the last minute and panicked. We slept naked together after arguing and he just held me. The next morning we kissed again and talked and I knew I was still in love, more so even. He took me back to where my sister lived and we argued a little more on the way (for about two-three hours). We both said some really awful things and parted really badly. I havn't stopped crying since tuesday afternoon I blame myself for everything he's not to blame. I am to call him on sunday but my mind wont rest please please please advice me on what to do.

Savio's Reply

Dear worried love sick teen,
Move on with your life. This guy just wants to have the best of all worlds and doesn't care much about your true feelings. In the end, you will feel depressed and miserable and he'll be messing some other girl's life up.

Gavin's Reply

Dear worried love sick teen,
i am just wondering why he panicked......was he nervous or embarrased that he was a lil too drunk and that could affect his love making performance ? anyways that really doesnt matter now. you should not cry. these things happen in a lot of people's life .you are not to blame and maybe he is also not to blame. keep your calm and try and to make new friends.