I'm only 17 but I'm having problems with all this relationship business. I first found myself liking this guy last September. We hit it off right away. Pretty soon, he was asking me to be his girlfriend. I didn't want to regret anything and I, being the cautious person I am, said that it was too soon but I did have feelings for him. We kept " talking " and a few weeks later he asked me out again. I, again, stupidly, refused his offer. We were still very close and we liked each other very much. This lifestyle continued for quite some time, until March. We were practically going out...Spending every free moment together. I went on a vacation for awhile and when I came back, he had a new girlfriend. I was devastated. We talked about it and he explained that he thought we were just friends because of all the times I turned him down. I found out that he's known this girl for awhile but he didn't want to do anything about it because of me. I completely understand where he's coming from but I'm still not over him at all. It's almost been five months and everyday I hope that they break up. We rarely talk anymore but he's all I think about. Sure, I've had flings with other boys, but he's the only one I truly care about. I know I've made a mistake, but if there's anyway you can think of to help me it would be greatly appreciated. I've convinced myself to think that when they break up, he will come back to me. I know that all this probably isn't healthy, but I really can't picture myself with anybody else right now. Please get back to me as soon as you can. Thank you.

Savio's Reply

Dear Helplessly Hopeful,
You had your chance and you messed it up. But to good avail! He never really loved you. If he did, he wouldn't keep another girl on hold all the while waiting to be sure before he started using her too.

Gavin's Reply

Dear Helplessly Hopeful,
Your chance is gone. move on. hoping for their break up is senseless. try building a new relationship. seasons come and go. life moves on...